I just had a chat with my best friend and I feel compelled to say few things.
I'm not talking about stuff you'd actually want to keep to yourself and that you know how to solve on your own. I'm talking about problems you don't share with people that love you because "they might be too busy", "I don't want them to worry", "it's clingy and needy", "they have enough problems of their own", "it's stupid" etc.
I don't know about you, but I cannot even begin to describe how horrible I feel when I find out someone close to me is or was going through something and I couldn't be there for them because they didn't tell me because of the said reasons or something similar, and it happened quite a few times. And sometimes they were in such serious situations. Just imagine how would you feel if your friend/family member had to deal with something. Would YOU think it's stupid or clingy? Or would you be focused on helping them or, if you can't, at least showing them support? I'm guessing the later.
*Anyone who's too busy to find time for people they love has their priorities sorted out wrong.
*Worrying for others is normal. It's shows our care and love, shows someone has your interest at heart, and it means they will try to think of a solution. Yes, it's not a positive emotion, but I can guarantee you people who love you would rather worry than let you go through stuff on your own. Your loved ones may have their problems too. But have you noticed how most people who have "enough of their own stuff to worry about" as you may think, in fact are almost always ready to help? It's because it helps take the focus of their own hardships.
And I'm really sorry if this seems rude, but it's not okay for you to decide if they get to be worried about you or not.
*We all need someone sometimes. Don't be a hero. It's okay to cling. Some thing are to heavy for you to carry them on your own. I can tell you, when ever a friend comes to me with a problem, I don't see it as needy. I see it as "I'm so glad you came to talk to me about this because now we can try to fix it."
*This is so IMPORTANT. It's NOT stupid if it posses a problem for you. Even if it's something that's simple and normal for other people.
Please, please talk to people who love you. They want to be there for you.